Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. At some point, everyone needs help. We take some forms of help for granted, not even thinking we are even receiving help. For example, when someone gives advice that leads to resolution of a difficult situation, a professional who goes above and beyond their original contractual obligation, or even a random act of kindness.
How does one ask for help? It is important to go to the right practitioner. There are the “helpful” professions such as psychotherapists, massage therapists, PT’s, OT’s, social workers and many others. Since the pandemic and even 9/11, there has been a lot written about burn-out in these professions. The helpers need help. But asking for help doesn’t have to overwhelm the helper.
Having trouble asking for help, has been a lifelong issue for me. I think I can do it all, and by myself. My first step in undoing this behavior has been to stop trying to save everyone. I am avoiding codependent situations that are like pouring water into a sieve. I’m even allowing my students to struggle more before I jump in and show them how to do something.
My new intention is to ask for help on a regular basis. It is important not to emotionally exchange help for love and respect. Help needs to be asked for and given free of strings attached. For me, this intention will mostly take the form of asking the universe.
The Inspiration for Violinists card deck
This “Laying the groundwork” card is part of a 50 card deck. Every card has a unique image and text inspiring musicianship, mindfulness and spirituality.